April, flowy dresses, flowers, and mania.  Yep, it’s that time of year again — prom season.

For girls, I think the season sort of started in like… February.  That’s around when all the dresses come out and flash in your eyes and make you want to pay $400 for something you’ll probably only wear once :P  (Okay, maybe I’m the only one susceptible to that kind of thing > <  But they’re so PRETTY.)  I know this because I get emails about dresses from different stores.

I think that prom is a very important event, at least for the romantically inclined.  To me, prom was the thing I dreamed about all through elementary, middle, and high school, the one beautiful and exciting night that would mark my life forever, and hopefully bring in some wonderful romance.  It was probably as important to me as a wedding day, and infinitely more tangible and perhaps even more important, because it looked like a beginning where marriage looked like an end (to adventure, anyways XD).

Of course, I’m the kind of person easily swayed by flashing lights and Hollywood movies, so of course I have/had high hopes for that kind of magical night :P  (Yeah… I’m that kind of girl.  The kind who believes Hollywood movie, Disney fairy tales, and classic romantic novels portray real life.)

And based on these images I’d grown up seeing, my perception of the “perfect” (rather, the typical/normal) prom went something like this:

  1. A (preferably attractive) guy asks the girl out in a cute way.  (See this article for suggestions.)  And yes, those are the only proper ways.  Basically, something surprising, simple, and cute — and typically indirect, it always seemed like it should involve writing “PROM?” and showing it to her in some romantic fashion.
  2. She says yes, of course XD   Happily.  And her friends are happy for her, too :P
  3. They go dress shopping and she gets a beautiful fluffy dress XD  Complete with shoes, a purse, and some jewelry maybe :3
  4. The guy sets it all up with their friends and stuff, they have a dinner planned, and a limo, and all that.
  5. On the day of, the girl and her friends get together to get ready for the night.
  6. The guys show up to pick them up in a limo, and the guy, of course, pays her lots of compliments because he thinks she’s beautiful :P  The guy brings her a corsage that he slips on her wrist :3  And he has a flower that matches the corsage, and she pins it to his suit.
  7. They go to dinner at a fancy place ^ ^  And he pays for her dinner.
  8. After dinner, they go to the prom place, which is all pretty and decorated like it is in the movies.  They get photo portraits taken, and they dance and chat and have fun~
  9. At some point, there’s a perfect song, and he asks her to dance, and they have the perfect dance ^w^  And maybe that becomes “their song”…?
  10. He takes her home, and they have a moment, and he wishes her good night in a perfect ending to the perfect night ^ ^

Okay, it’s kind of vague, but that’s the outline.  Mine really, really did not go that way, so I must say that I’m wholly disillusioned with romance and prom after my own.  (You can read about my sad little prom story here.  Well, you will be able to when I write it XD)

But it’s still nice to dream, and I’m nothing if not a dreamer.  When I heard that colleges often had spring formals also, I was pretty excited at the idea of having a “make up” prom.   Needless to say, college prom also did not happen for me, and I think you lose a lot of the magic when you get older.  Plus, a lot of people have already had a prom, so they really have no need to have a second one.  It’s part maturity, part experience, and I think it’s part realism, or being more realistic.  (Not to say I didn’t have a super fun time with my friends when I did go in college, just that it didn’t have that romantic flair.)  Oh, and part of the problem is that I was always the planner, so I have not once been asked to a formal dance.  I planned, and I asked, and I was dateless :P

What I learned from these events, or lack thereof, is that disappointment is the only outcome of hope, so it’s better to just leave it in life’s hands and go with whatever happens.  I don’t mean that in a negative way, though it does sound like that.  I just mean that sometimes, you set yourself up to be disappointed by having unrealistic and too-high expectations of something that you look forward to, and there is no way that reality can match the imagination.  For one thing, I’ve learned that guys really don’t dream as big — not that it’s wrong, it’s just a guy thing.  You know how extravagant girls can get if you let them go off and daydream XD

I used to think that the disappointments meant I was a failure, because I felt like it was partially my fault that it never came to be — I wasn’t social enough, I wasn’t brave enough, I didn’t make enough friends, and I wasn’t attractive enough.  I still struggle with that idea.  But I’m starting to think, or try to think, that maybe I just wasn’t meant to have those things, for one reason or another, and I’m trying to learn a life lesson from it.  Like with anything else disappointing, sad, or frustrating that happens in life, these things make me more empathetic to people who are going through trials, especially similar problems.  I want to keep believing that there’s a reason, and the reason is to understand and help people.

But anyways.  Random post about nothing, sorry guys XD  If anyone is going to prom, I hope you have a magnificent, fairy tale time.  For those that had a less than spectacular prom, don’t fret about it — maybe your prince will come for you some day :D  For those of you that are in the same boat as me, don’t be depressed or regretful, but keep dreaming and you’ll see the reason for it some day.  (This is also a reminder for me, too XP )

And I’ll leave you with the movie I think of when I think about prom.  I think it portrays the “high school thing” pretty well, though definitely dramatically, but I rather like the movie ^ ^;;

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