Romantic Notions


Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about calendars.  Perhaps my thoughts were sparked by my discipler’s mention that she likes to have a calendar to mark down all the things that are going on, and then at the end of the year, she has something to remember the year by.  I like that a lot, actually, so I’ve been trying to procure some kind of cute desk calendar.  I recently bought a cute Hello Kitty Engagement Calendar (even though it’s already halfway through the year >__<;;…)

I prefer Chococat, but his items are limited.  Hello Kitty works, too :3

I should be getting it tomorrow, so hopefully it’s all I’m expecting it to be so I can start using it to remember my days ^ ^

I think that calendars can be pretty romantic things.  The other day I saw an engagement calendar that actually went from July to July, rather than January to December like “normal” calendars.  That sort of got me thinking about how calendars can be used in a romantic sense.  They could make a cute anniversary gift:

(1) For the guy to give the girl a new calendar for the coming year, so that she can mark down all the things they’ll experience together in the next year.  This sort of makes it so that their year is from anniversary to anniversary, rather than from January to December.  I think that could be cute, too ^ ^  I wouldn’t mind marking my year that way.  Extra points if he makes the calendar himself, and it’d probably be pretty hard to find a calendar that does that anyways.

(2) For the guy to give the girl a calendar for the  previous year, in which he marked everything that happened that previous year.  This shows that he remembers their times together and thought they were important enough to mark down :3

Or some combination of the two :P  I guess that’s asking too much of boys, haha.  Just remembering the anniversary is a feat :x

I only say from guy to girl here, because I think guys don’t care that much for something sentimental like a calendar of memories.  Anyways, if a girl gives a guy a calendar, I think it’d be kind of perceived as clingy or passive aggressive hinting?  Just my impression.

Anyways.  This is one of my silly romantic notions.  Too bad it doesn’t fit in my book, or I’d toss it in as a cute side scene (like I’ve done with a lot of other silly notions I have XD).

I’m excited to see my new calendar tomorrow!  :)

Lately I think I’ve been pretty into cutesy romantic stuff.  Okay, I’m always into it, but for some reason I’ve really been thinking about serenades a lot.  I think that every girl would like to be serenaded… no matter how cheesy or embarrassing it is XD

What’s really been on my mind is this scene from Roswell.  (By the way, I really really like that show, but I’ll talk more about that later :P  For now, suffice it to say that it’s one of my top fluff and squeal sources.  …That probably didn’t make much sense to anyone but me.  ANYWAYS.)

Sorry if it’s confusing to anyone, as it probably will be if you haven’t watched Roswell before so it’s completely out of context, but just know that the scruffy-looking long-haired dude is future version of the guy singing.

The scene I’m talking about starts at about 6:30.

Although mariachi isn’t really my thing, it’s still super cute and romantic 8D  There’s just something about balconies and singing and flowers… it’s even better than Romeo and Juliet :P  I particularly liked how suave looking he was (totally smirking the whole time) and how he changed the roses from white to red.

Actually, I think it’d be even cuter if he threw rocks at her window to get her attention (you know… like before we had cell phones and instant messenger and stuff, it’s how the guy was sneaky at night, I guess).  But you can’t have everything XD

April, flowy dresses, flowers, and mania.  Yep, it’s that time of year again — prom season.

For girls, I think the season sort of started in like… February.  That’s around when all the dresses come out and flash in your eyes and make you want to pay $400 for something you’ll probably only wear once :P  (Okay, maybe I’m the only one susceptible to that kind of thing > <  But they’re so PRETTY.)  I know this because I get emails about dresses from different stores.

I think that prom is a very important event, at least for the romantically inclined.  To me, prom was the thing I dreamed about all through elementary, middle, and high school, the one beautiful and exciting night that would mark my life forever, and hopefully bring in some wonderful romance.  It was probably as important to me as a wedding day, and infinitely more tangible and perhaps even more important, because it looked like a beginning where marriage looked like an end (to adventure, anyways XD).

Of course, I’m the kind of person easily swayed by flashing lights and Hollywood movies, so of course I have/had high hopes for that kind of magical night :P  (Yeah… I’m that kind of girl.  The kind who believes Hollywood movie, Disney fairy tales, and classic romantic novels portray real life.)

And based on these images I’d grown up seeing, my perception of the “perfect” (rather, the typical/normal) prom went something like this:

  1. A (preferably attractive) guy asks the girl out in a cute way.  (See this article for suggestions.)  And yes, those are the only proper ways.  Basically, something surprising, simple, and cute — and typically indirect, it always seemed like it should involve writing “PROM?” and showing it to her in some romantic fashion.
  2. She says yes, of course XD   Happily.  And her friends are happy for her, too :P
  3. They go dress shopping and she gets a beautiful fluffy dress XD  Complete with shoes, a purse, and some jewelry maybe :3
  4. The guy sets it all up with their friends and stuff, they have a dinner planned, and a limo, and all that.
  5. On the day of, the girl and her friends get together to get ready for the night.
  6. The guys show up to pick them up in a limo, and the guy, of course, pays her lots of compliments because he thinks she’s beautiful :P  The guy brings her a corsage that he slips on her wrist :3  And he has a flower that matches the corsage, and she pins it to his suit.
  7. They go to dinner at a fancy place ^ ^  And he pays for her dinner.
  8. After dinner, they go to the prom place, which is all pretty and decorated like it is in the movies.  They get photo portraits taken, and they dance and chat and have fun~
  9. At some point, there’s a perfect song, and he asks her to dance, and they have the perfect dance ^w^  And maybe that becomes “their song”…?
  10. He takes her home, and they have a moment, and he wishes her good night in a perfect ending to the perfect night ^ ^

Okay, it’s kind of vague, but that’s the outline.  Mine really, really did not go that way, so I must say that I’m wholly disillusioned with romance and prom after my own.  (You can read about my sad little prom story here.  Well, you will be able to when I write it XD)

But it’s still nice to dream, and I’m nothing if not a dreamer.  When I heard that colleges often had spring formals also, I was pretty excited at the idea of having a “make up” prom.   Needless to say, college prom also did not happen for me, and I think you lose a lot of the magic when you get older.  Plus, a lot of people have already had a prom, so they really have no need to have a second one.  It’s part maturity, part experience, and I think it’s part realism, or being more realistic.  (Not to say I didn’t have a super fun time with my friends when I did go in college, just that it didn’t have that romantic flair.)  Oh, and part of the problem is that I was always the planner, so I have not once been asked to a formal dance.  I planned, and I asked, and I was dateless :P

What I learned from these events, or lack thereof, is that disappointment is the only outcome of hope, so it’s better to just leave it in life’s hands and go with whatever happens.  I don’t mean that in a negative way, though it does sound like that.  I just mean that sometimes, you set yourself up to be disappointed by having unrealistic and too-high expectations of something that you look forward to, and there is no way that reality can match the imagination.  For one thing, I’ve learned that guys really don’t dream as big — not that it’s wrong, it’s just a guy thing.  You know how extravagant girls can get if you let them go off and daydream XD

I used to think that the disappointments meant I was a failure, because I felt like it was partially my fault that it never came to be — I wasn’t social enough, I wasn’t brave enough, I didn’t make enough friends, and I wasn’t attractive enough.  I still struggle with that idea.  But I’m starting to think, or try to think, that maybe I just wasn’t meant to have those things, for one reason or another, and I’m trying to learn a life lesson from it.  Like with anything else disappointing, sad, or frustrating that happens in life, these things make me more empathetic to people who are going through trials, especially similar problems.  I want to keep believing that there’s a reason, and the reason is to understand and help people.

But anyways.  Random post about nothing, sorry guys XD  If anyone is going to prom, I hope you have a magnificent, fairy tale time.  For those that had a less than spectacular prom, don’t fret about it — maybe your prince will come for you some day :D  For those of you that are in the same boat as me, don’t be depressed or regretful, but keep dreaming and you’ll see the reason for it some day.  (This is also a reminder for me, too XP )

And I’ll leave you with the movie I think of when I think about prom.  I think it portrays the “high school thing” pretty well, though definitely dramatically, but I rather like the movie ^ ^;;

My friend Daniel sent me this beautiful video.  It’s soooo cute > <  I almost cried at the end T__T

I love his expression when she comes back the second day XD  (Does that kind of thing really happen, though?)  Even simple things can be romantic.  I think this would be a super cute way to meet someone.

I recently heard Taylor Swift’s new album, “Speak Now” (from Tiffy, who was playing music when she came to visit).  I usually really like Taylor Swift’s songs, because the lyrics are intelligent and honest, and the music is usually very fitting.  She also has some of the best music American music videos I’ve seen — I prefer music videos with a story line, rather than just glamorized photo shoots, so I really like hers :3

Anyways, I particularly liked this song from the album.  There are actually a lot that I’ve come to like as I listened to them, but I think I felt really connected with this one.  For my own reasons, of course :P  This one is called “The Story of Us.”

Lyrics I particularly liked:

“I used to know my place was a spot next to you
Now I’m searching the room for an empty seat”

“Now I’m standing alone in a crowded room
And we’re not speaking
And I’m dying to know, is it killing you
Like it’s killing me?”

“And the story of us
Looks a lot like a tragedy now”

“How I was losing my mind when I saw you here
But you held your pride like you should have held me”

“I’d tell you I miss you but I don’t know how
I’ve never heard silence quite this loud”

“This is looking like a contest of who can act like they care less
But I liked it better when you were on my side
The battle’s in your hands now”

Okay, fine, I copied like half the song, and I still had more.  So I guess I just like the lyrics >___<;;;  (By the way, I really like the first picture in that video.  It’s so pretty and artistic ^^  I want to do a photoshoot now… ><)

 

Bonus song :D  This one’s called “If This Was a Movie.”

Favorite lyrics:

“Come back come back come back to me like
You would you would if this was a movie
Stand in the rain outside ’til I came out”

The interesting thing about these lyrics is that it’s sort of improbable by now (even though it’s really romantic to think about).  I think that most guys, if they came at all, would just sit in their car XP

Another interesting thing for me is, when I first heard (and every time I hear) that line, I had this image of this side story I had in which two characters (who like each other, obviously) get into a big argument (because they’re too dumb to admit that they like each other, probably), and the guy ends up doing exactly that — waiting outside on the street corner in the rain until she comes out/comes back.  I think I first got that image/idea from a Maroon 5 song, “She Will Be Loved,” with these lyrics:

“I don’t mind spending everyday
Out on your corner in the pouring rain”

Now I feel like writing again… I think I have dangerous amounts of romanticism XD;;…

This past weekend, my friend Tiffy visited from out of town, which was a lot of fun :)  We had lots of needed GIRL TALK XD  And of course, we wandered around an outdoor mall and went shopping.  (Your typical girl date :P )  Somehow, we ended up spending 3 hours at like 2 places > <  But anyways…

We had dinner with some of our friends that she hadn’t seen in a while (actually, I haven’t seen them either D:  Because everybody’s too busy for everybody else… or maybe I’m just too busy QQ).  On the way, Tiffy and I realized we haven’t been to so many places despite having lived here for for a few years.  There was a pretty little strip of land across the river/lake with benches that seemed like it would be a nice place to read, stroll, or watch the sunset :3  We also saw a couple taking wedding pictures on a little dock.  The dinner was at a trailer called The Mighty Cone.  It was basically fried food with some lettuce and sauce wrapped up in a tortilla and put into a paper cone.  The food was really good, though, and we also got some chili-dusted fries.  I can’t eat spicy food well, so it was a little spicy for me, but overall it was delicious and well worth a trip :)

Then we had an impromptu house warming party at one of our friend’s “newly” bought and renovated condo, which was gorgeous.  (He bought it like a year+ ago but just recently finished remodeling it, and most of us hadn’t seen it before.)  He also took us to the top of a nearby parking garage, which overlooked a lot of the city — we could see the lake, the hill(s?), the skyline, and radio towers XD  Apparently, during July 4, you can see a bunch of different fireworks all over the city.  It would be very pretty to see :)

We decided to watch a movie then, and we went back to my place (since my friend doesn’t have a TV) and Tiffy showed us a few things, which I have provided here for your entertainment :3

How Asian Women Age

 

For the movie, we ended up watching this dramatic Japanese movie referred to as an X-Men crossover with Romeo & Juliet.  It was unfortunately dubbed, but that just made it more ridiculous than dramatic XD;;  The movie was called Shinobi: Heart Under Blade, and apparently based on a true story and similar to a manga/anime called Basilisk.  Don’t ask me what it was about though, I was pretty tired so I ended up sleeping through almost all of it.  They said that I didn’t miss anything though >__<;;

All in all, it was a lovely weekend, and so much fun, as it always is with her~ <3

Happy Valentines Day!


Although Valentine’s Day has derailed quite a bit from its original meaning, I still quite like the holiday as it is today.  I think a lot of people look at it as a commercial holiday that promotes you to buy a lot of stuff you don’t need to express a love that you should be showing every day — and I completely agree with that.  But I also like to look at it on the flip side as a special day that people can look forward to (hopefully), and it’s not about only showing your love on this day, but more like celebrating your love, or the existence of love at all, on a special day.

For those who enjoy or celebrate birthdays, it’s kind of like that.  You live every day, but a birthday is an annual celebration of the fact that you are alive!  It’s a reminder that you came into the world, and a good time for people to tell you what they probably wouldn’t tell you every day: that they love you and are happy you are in their lives.  Valentine’s Day is sort of the same thing, I think.

Personally, I think that the traditional chocolate and flowers and Valentine’s Day cards, with dinner at a nice place, is very sweet.  (I’m a fan of tradition, if you couldn’t already tell XP)  But the thing is, the point is not what you buy, but what you give.

Just as sweet, and maybe even more meaningful, would be giving hand-made chocolates (or anything else!) that is specifically tailored to the tastes of your valentine, hand-picked flowers (doesn’t have to be a beautiful bouquet, as long as you picked it for your Valentine), or a hand-made card (regardless of whether or not you have artistic quality or a way with words).  And for dinner, getting all dressed up for a guy to take the girl to his place and cook nice food for her, is also very sweet :)

(I was trying to get away from “guy doing this for a girl,” but I don’t think I really could, so I gave up at the end XD)

Anyways, those are just some ideas.  Girls love hand-made things, because it’s personal.  It doesn’t have to be amazing or professional, it just has to be sincere.

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Originally, Valentine’s Day was a feast for St. Valentine, one of fourteen martyrs named Valentine from ancient Rome.  The story I heard before was that the St. Valentine we refer to with Valentine’s Day was very loving and giving, and he took care of children (or something?).  I’m a little fuzzy on all the details.  I’ve also heard that at some point, he was in prison, and sent a letter signed, “From, Your Valentine.”  Supposedly that’s where we get that phrase from.  Please correct me on any of this, because I didn’t really read the linked article closely, and my memory tends to be spotty XD;

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In the Western culture, Valentine’s Day is typically a day where the guy does stuff for the girl.  He brings her flowers, he gives her chocolates, he takes her to dinner and out to whatever else they’re planning to do.

In some parts of Asia, there’s a slightly different convention.  Valentine’s Day is the day that girls give to guys — and she doesn’t only give to her significant, but to all the guys (classmates, father, brother, coworkers, etc).  Typically, she’ll give them lesser quality chocolates, and then she will give hand-made or very expensive chocolate to the guy she likes.

Then, on March 14, which is called White Day, guys are supposed to give presents to all the girls that gave them chocolates on Valentine’s Day.  I think typically they have to give a certain amount more to each girl (so guys still get kind of the short end of that stick XD).  I’ve also heard that the guy only gives presents to the girl if he returns her affections.  I guess it depends on the culture, but I kind of like this exchange ^w^

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It’s also fun to hear stories about people’s Valentine’s Day.  Some guys are really creative and romantic!  I heard one story on the radio about a lady who received a letter, along with her two female friends, from their husbands that told them that they were to be Charlie’s Angels and had a mission.  They were to dress up and go downtown to purchase a cap gun, and then get someone to take a picture of them doing their best Charlie’s Angels pose.  Then, they received their second mission: to purchase whipped cream and a single red rose, and get pictures taken with those.  When they were done with that, they were to drive to their church, where  tall and handsome man would take them to where they needed to go.  They arrived at the church and were taken into the chapel, where their husbands were each waiting there, dressed as groomsmen, and they renewed their wedding vows.  There was even a small, catered reception afterwards, with a wedding cake :)  How fancy!

Oh, a good Valentine’s Day movie, I think: Kate & Leopold.  It doesn’t top Ever After on my list, but I’ll have to say that all guys should be like Leopold :P

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Holiday traditions are fun :3  What’s your Valentine’s Day tradition?

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